LoveGame - Lady Gaga

The results are in! In a survey last month, Teen Vogue asked readers what it really means to be "hooking up". While some responses seemed to reflect predictable teen behavior, there were, admittedly, a few that really shocked us. The survey, accounting for 2,287 responses, reveals that the average age for having a first kiss is 13 (fair enough), and that the average age of having sex for the first time is 15 (yikes!). Another shocker the survey suggests is that 22% of teens did not use protection the first time they had sex, and 23% never use protection. With stats like these, it's no wonder teen pregnancy is on the rise.

According to the survey, more than half of those who answered do not count oral sex as "sex," even though one can still contract an STD or STI this way.

The true meaning of "hooking up" remains a rather ambiguous term, but the survey shows that the general view has a lot to do with safety. "[Hooking up] is fine, as long as you're being safe," (as in practicing safe sex) was a common response to the open-ended question.

Read on for the full results!
Would you say most of your friends are dating?
Yes 57%
No 43%

Do your parents let you date?
Yes 82.7%
No 17.3%

If not, is there a certain age at which they will allow it?
13 6.2%
14 4%
15 11.4%
16 25.1%
17 12%
18+ 41.2%

Would you (or have you) ever gone behind their back to date someone or had a secret boyfriend/girlfriend?
Yes 60.8%
No 39.2%

At what age did you have your first kiss?
Avg 13

At what age did you first have sex?
Avg 15

Did you use protection the first time you had sex?
Yes 77.9%
No 22.1%

What counts as "hooking up"?
Kissing 79.3%
Touching 53.4%
Oral sex 46.2%
Sex 47.2%
Other 11.9%

How many people have you hooked up with?
1-3 60.7%
3-5 14.6%
5-7 8.7%
7-10 5.9%
10+ 10%

Where do you hook up? (Check all that apply)
School 25.5%
Home 41.2%
Friend's house 55.4%
Other 56.4%
*Recurring write-in for "Other" was "parties"

How often do you practice safe sex (use a condom or other means of birth control)?
Always 62.4%
Almost always 9.7%
Sometimes 4.9%
Never 23.0%

Does oral sex count as "sex"?
Yes 44.6%
No 55.4%

Do you perceive oral sex to be more acceptable/appropriate than sex?
Yes 33.8%
No 66.2%

Are you worried about getting an STI?
Yes 61.1%
No 38.9%

Have your parents talked to you about sex/hooking up?
Yes 63.6%
No 36.4%

How old were you when they had "the talk"?
12 and under 44.5%
13-15 42.7%
15-18 11.7%
19 and up 1.1%

If so, did your find their talk to be effective/useful?
Yes 57.6%
No 42.4%

Have you ever sent/posted partially clad/nude photos of yourself to a guy/girl?
Yes 25.1%
No 74.9%

If you don't have an exclusive partner, how many people do you think it's OK to hook up with at the same time?
2 74.6%
3 16.0%
4 2.1%
5+ 7.3%

Do you think there's a double standard in regards to hooking up when it comes to guys versus girls?
Yes 73.7%
No 26.3%

Talk Back: What's your general view on hooking up?
*Here are a few sample write-in responses from the survey:

"I think it's generally harmless, as long as you're safe, and you and your partner have the same feelings and expectations."

"It's one of the early processes before dating or a serious relationship."

"I think that the term 'hook up' is very unclear. To me it's just kissing, but to my friends I know it can mean different things."

"It just depends how far you take things...kissing is ok, but when it gets to the point of feeling uncomfortable, then it's not ok."

"Hooking up at a party or other group event always leads to trouble. The rate at which rumors fly around, especially in high school, is insane!"

"I think that when you're ready or feel you want to be more experienced, then you can do whatever, but only if you're ready. Don't do something because you're forced to and/or feel pressured to do so. Don't do something you'll regret because you'll never be able to take it back. And always be safe about things."

For those of you who didn't participate in the survey, what do you think about these findings? Sound off!

Also, read Teen Vogue's June/July issue feature, Modern Romance, by Suzanne D'Amato, for more of the scoop on where, when, and how teens these days are "hooking up".



Manifest plainness, embrace simplicity, reduce selfishness, have few desires. --Lao-Tzu

Your heart says stay and battle the pain, but your mind says leave for all this isnt needed, broken into pieces for that one an only. But follow your heart because the heart can only take so much. --Jamila M. Allen

Had I but served my God with half the zeal I served my King, He would not in mine age have left me naked to mine enemies. --William Shakespeare

The hardest thing to do is watch the one you love, love someone else. --Anonymous

Two lives, two hearts joined together in friendship united forever in love. --Anonymous



Helloooo world!

current mood : great :D
current song : I'm Yours - Jason Mraz

HAHAHAHA! See that? I remember the I'm Yours lyrics. Why? Last night went so hard, like every single day, me and him fought! jeez, then as you know or everybody know, the result used to be broke up. Puh-leaseee! For the many many and many times. Maybe the PUTUS-NYAMBUNG is the right way to describe it.

Today, I'm watching REVA's (the man whom I'm talking about) band practicing for the upcoming band audition for MPK (Malam Pergelaran Kesenian - is it right? heee).
Well, they play so damn good! I'm supporting them! Not only because its Reva's but from their skill. Two thumbs up and more. They not like an ordinary band who sang the hardcore genre. They play smooth! Actually, it's jazz and I ♥ jazz.

For now, maybe my relationship status is 'complicated' but I'm guarantee that I still stick onto one gentlemen. I'm a lil' bit extraordinary in this thing! HAHAHA


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ANIES

Label: LOVE LIFE

Hello blogger! hihi ;)
it's almost one month that I didn't writting blog. By the way, let me share my whole stories (2 days lately)!

* current mood : up and down up and down up and down
* current song : TERUSKANLAH - Agnes Monica

That was what I want to share!
' pernahkah kau bicara? Tapi tak didengar.. ' yaaa etc, didn't remember the whole lyrics!
Yeaaah, I ♥ that song so much. It's like describing my feelings 'up and down' rite now!
D'you know how its comes? Not sure, but surely this 2 days lately, I WAS CRIED LIKE A BABY! poor me, my spoiled-brat-acted has comes then he walk away from me!
I don't know why he was so mean? Let me cried out loud like a toodler!
I make it a lil bit confused, the point is ' I MISS HIM SO MUCH '
I want to meet him
I want to hug him
I want to kiss him

I'm crying, begging for his kindness, but he didn't even heard me!

I want him to visits me, but he wont!

Still patient still patient. But my patience and my brain did'nt work in the same way. I lost my patience then I screamed and cried like a SPOILED-PRINCESS!
But he didn't care. He stick in his way.

It's so hurting me. For many times, he gimme his promises but he didn't do the promises he made.

I'm hurt. I'm pain.

And I said the effin' word.
'I want you break up with me' with tears and screamed. Firstly he aggreed, he told me that he doesn't know what must he do for me. He tired with my attitude who always made him angry.

I'm so glad he agree with mine, but my other side is CRYING! blahhh I hate this situations. That night, my not yet ex, called me. He asked me about my 'breaking up thingy'. I replied, 'sure, I'm serious'. His sounds dissaticfied, he asked me, 'I dont want to broke up with you. We're still going out and went steady'

OK! I agree, besides, I still loved him so much! Then my sleep went so relief. But my sister said that in the morning, my face looked so tired. My sister never sees me like that, she told me that she didn't want to waking me up wether I asked her.

Then the next day, the mess comes again. Alright, alright. Pass! I already forgive him. It's enough for me to crying crying and crying. But it can't stopped my tears fell down. I cried and I screamed. It means, the-breaking-up-thingy comes again. I said that effin words twice. Alright! But he didn't agree this time, he said that 'he still in love with me'

for many times, i can not resist his charm!

I love you, yesterday, today, tommorow and forever.


♥
ANIES

Label: LOVE LIFE